men & women

a random 3-way conversation over MSN just occured between 2 of my colleagues and myself, which stirred some thought and shed some light to my otherwise stereotypical mindset...

ok so this is how it goes...

aestee says (3:44 PM):
err
he really a bit diff planet
l y d i a says (3:45 PM):
uh huhhh
aestee says (3:45 PM):
oh ya forgot men are frm mars
l y d i a says (3:45 PM):
yeshhh
Kyø - A real man never back down on his promises says (3:46 PM):
we are living on earth liao
lets not talk about the past

what Lionel says is true la.
we are living on planet earth and this means that there should be no difference between male & female; and that we should all learn to get along with each other for a change.
i know........ no matter what, we're all stuck in this stereotypical mindset of men are from mars and women are from venus.
but then the question goes back to: let's jolly well figure a way to get out of it then! =)

Land Before Time - Baby Littlefoot

this is a classic.

CRAP drivers

i seriously can't stand (-> this is putting it VERY nicely already) those DUMB A** CRAP drivers on ECP every morning during the morning peak hours rush.
they should all just go back to Driving School or something!
why do people have to slow down whilst going up Benjamin Sheares bridge!?!?!?!?!
why why why?
i can't seem to see the logic in doing so.
don't they understand that due to their HORRIBLE driving skills & common sense, they hold back the traffic and cause a tail back all the way down to marine parade?!?!?!?!
this causes people to be frustrated so early in the morning & be late for work!
why must they be so dumb?
they are beyond description.
dumb, arrogant, selfish, ugly, kiasu, idoitic, annoying, cuckoo shit singaporean male driverssssssssssssss!

once you get up the Benjamin Sheares, guess what?!?!?!?!
THE TRAFFIC SUDDENLY CLEARS!
i stress the word - SUDDENLY.

also, Singaporean man (more like boys) are so damn bloody ungentlemanly.
seriously.
i hate to make such a sweeping statement.
but really, from uncles to yuppies, all CANNOT MAKE IT.
when they want to chap your lane, they don't care, they just simply anyhow squeeze their way through, not caring for your safety nor convenience.
why? because they are simply SELFISH. best part is, they don't even say thanks when you give way to them!!!
sigh sigh sigh.
so this morning, i met this super cannot-make-it white mitsubishi lancer (time to scrap ur damn old car dude) who didn't let me chap his lane to go to Rochor, (hope he gets his just desserts) speeded up just when i switched my left signal on!
wonderful isn't he?
world's nicest male driver award goes to him. definately. *rolls eyes*
sigh sigh sigh.

so hoppppppppping mad this morning!
arghhhh!
felt like just burning all of them.
burn people, burn!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i seriously need a loud hailer installed to my car.

guilt trips.

these are by far the best trips to be on isn't it?
people make you feel like the world's biggest idoit, say things to rub it in your face just when you're already feeling miserable.
is that a true attempt to help the situation or wad?
i don't get it.
maybe this is too high an order for me to comprehend.

i like to look and think the best of people. really i do.
but i can't do that all of the time.
i am human after all.
and i think i deserve some credit for that from time to time.
some allowance please?

how do you like to feel that anything you do is never gonna be good enough?
i just know that i can't seem to ever escape that ill-fate of being made to feel that way.
perhaps it is self-imposed.
shrugs. i don't know. can't tell.

things are not always easy to just speak your mind.
sometimes things just need to be internalised for a while.
in which case, i realised, i don't even know what's exactly wrong.
just don't feel comfortable.
like something is amiss.
simply hate that feeling.
but what to do, everyone goes through it don't they?
i know it'll make light someday but just not now because it's all gloom and doom at the moment.

do me a favour, whoever reads this, please don't ask me about it.
because honestly, i wouldn't know what to tell you either.

why do you even bother?

thought of the day is:
"why is there a need to deal with difficult people?"

2 ways to it.
think abt it positively or negatively.

unfortunately, the negative aspects seems to outshine the positive for me right now as i'm penning my thoughts.

"why do you even bother?"
shrugs. don't know.

just simply hate to keep second-guessing people.
sometimes feel i'm better for being a hermit for a while.
just to stay away from situations that catches my attention inevitably.

friendships, relationships, all the same.
both require love and effort.
so how if thats the case?
doesn't anybody strife to upkeep something called unconditional love?
then again, maybe upkeep isnt the correct word.
it's more like, doesn't anybody want to give out and receive unconditional love?
or does everyone simply don't believe in it anymore?

it's not always as simple as everyone thinks, to be the peace-maker.
if everyone can just learn to tolerate each other a bit more,
or to just be a little more thoughtful, kind, considerate, caring, tactful, loving, patient, forgiving, i seriously think the world will be much easier to live in and lives wouldn't have to be significantly shortened.

then again, that's just only my mentality i guess.
technically, the world is a lonely place.
it's me/you against the world.

approval required

i never knew i needed approval from people on who i date.
isnt that a bit passe?
don't understand it always seems that you must have a say about/in my life.

don't judge others without first judging yourself.

I don't like you Mommy

labels or love?

while my colleague beside me is obviously quarrelling with her boyfriend aka husband-to-be, over HDB matters... here i am wondering why are there such numbskulls on earth/in Singapore?

are guys these days so dense as that?
i refuse to believe that our dad's era of men are all extinct.
there is some hope! i think...
i hate to have to stereotype.

oh well... live and be happy!
life's too short to fuss over boys.

so i concluded, i'll have Fergie's song as part of my life's music playlist.
the lyrics are.................... cool ;)

Shopping for labels, shopping for love
Manolo and Louis, it's all I'm thinking of
Shopping for labels, shopping for love
Manolo and Louis, it's all I'm thinking of

I already know what my addiction is
I be looking for labels, I ain't looking for love
I shop for purses while I walk out the door
Don't cry, buy a bag and then get over it
And, I'm not concerned with all the politics
It's a lot of men I know I could find another one.
What I know is that I'm always happy when I walk out the store, store

I'm guessing Supercalifragi-sexy, nothing to be playing with
I love him, hate him, kiss him, diss him, tryna to walk a mile in my kicks

Love's like a runway but which one do I love more
No emotional baggage, just big bags filled with Dior
Love's like a runway, so what's all the fussing for
Let's stop chasing those boys and shop some more

I know I might come off as negative
I be looking for labels, I ain't looking for love
Relationships are often so hard to tame
A Prada dress has never broke my heart before
And, ballin's something that I'm fed up with
I'mma do the damn thing, watch me do the damn thing
Cause I know that my credit card will help me put out the flames

I'm guessing Supercalifragi-sexy, nothing to be playing with
I love him, hate him, kiss him, diss him, tryna to walk a mile in my kicks

Gucci, Fendi, Prada purses, purchasing them finer things
Men they come a dime a dozen, just give me them diamond rings
I'm into a lot of bling, Cadillac, Chanel and Coach
Fellas boast but they can't really handle my female approach
Buying things is hard to say
Rocking Christian Audigier, Manolo, Polo, taking photos in my Cartier
So we can't go all the way, I know you might hate it but
I'm a shop for labels while them ladies lay and wait for love

the art of hidding

question: is it healthy to hide relationships?
obviously not.

would you be truly happy?
it seems so stressful to do so...
what's the point in hidding?
all i see are negative outcomes.

i hope she sees it.

everyone is an adult here, so i don't see a point in having to purposely deceive others or prevent others from finding out.
what's so shameful?

if you love and care for each other, that's enough.
people should and would give their blessings!
our impression has changed.
and it is leaving one party hurt and affected.

but i'm proud of him - proud that he is handling it just fine.
all those bottled-up frustrations, who would know? and who would care?
is there a way i could possibly help?

love isn't painless, but it is unconditional.
that's the way love is suppose to be.
or at least that's what i think.

i hope they work this out soon.
hate to see them like this....

Pixar - Tennis Commercial

why bother

why should i bother being nice when in the end i always get shit for it.
no appreciation whatsoever.
cept for a black face.
why should i even bother trying then.
i just don't understand the logic in that.
not as if that's the only one that can be used.
all because of laziness, selfishness and own ease of usage, that causes inconvenience to others.
what crap.
who isn't tired, who doesn't want convenience, who doesn't want the easy way out.
why can't the peace be longer...
then i wouldn't have to put myself through all of this.
been away already, talk online whole day, phone calls... it's never enough.
i need my peace again.
it's good to be alone. seriously.

Rav 4

i hereby declare that i rav 4 drivers suck.
big time.
road bullies they all are.

Britney Spears - Womanizer (Director's Cut)

yummy mummy!
welcome back Britney!!!

it just happened

not as if i hoped/wished/prayed for it to happen so i simply can't understand why it is so hard for you to just accept the truth?
offer some words of consolation?
show some care/concern?
why must it have to be like this?
why do you have to be like this?
am i just suppose to suck it up all the time?
it's just so frustrating and it makes me hate telling you anything.
it doesn't have to be this way.
is it really so much to ask for?
i'm taking the responsibility, i'm taking ownership of the matter, why can't you see that?
is everything never good enough in your eyes?
why can others be nice about it but you can't?
i really don't get it.
i don't think i ever will.

an analogy developed in Malacca

once again, heartfelt thanks to Grace, Peiwen and Denise for this very memorable trip.
looking forward to many more to come!

thanks for listening and sharing with me memories, thoughts and feelings.
i've been thinking and guess now i know what to do.

came up with this analogy whilst in discussion with one of the topics,
Mei asked: "but jie, you always give people the benefit of doubt, you're always able to handle stuff."
and my reply was: "even water bottles have their limits. a 500ml water bottle's function is to only hold 500ml worth of water, nothing more than that. pour anymore into it, and the water will just overflow."

i am not a bottomless pit.

sorry is just merely a word.
what weight does it hold anymore these days...
*shrugs*

post celebration with my SIM girls

Thanks girls, for all the effort and planning.

it was a wonderful dinner, get-together.

cheers to more ahead!

*hugs*

pointless rambles

and so the truth is told.
seems like nobody wants/needs to hear about it.
i know i don't need to know.
cos' what you don't know won't hurt.
as long as you're happy - it's ok.
you're right, everything sounds like excuses.
so what's the point of explaining anymore?
it's ok. just drop it.

Christmas Carolling

Christmas is around the corner!!!
my favouritest time of the year.
time to hit the streets of orchard to soak up the atmosphere...

hopefully we'll find a group willing to do Christmas carolling soon!
any choir to intro, please email me or leave me a comment?

it's the time of the year when it rains all the time, it's cold and windy,
and when we all wish we had someone to spend the special holidays with.

i'm so glad i watched High School Musical 3!
it was awesome. reminds me so much of my CHIJ days somehow...
how nostalgic...
i'm listening to the album on Ineem now! haha.

looking forward to my road trip this Friday!
need a break badly.
looking forward to be out of this place, somewhere different.
somewhere i can just let loose and be comfortable.
so many places to go, so many things to see.
i'm sure we'll have a good time! :)

now that a recession is looming and dooming,
i wish everyone well.
those who are still in school (uni), try to stay in there as long as you can.
the job market is not at all friendly now.
crime rate is high and everyone probably isn't in the best of moods.

good luck guys. take care...

emotional measurements?

thanks to Nic, i have a food for thought...

statement: there is a difference between being emotionally strong and emotionally indifferent.

so what are you?
and
what am i?

hmmmmm.....

Desaru Staff Party 18 Aug 2008